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How to Fist a Woman - Fisting isn’t for everyone. But if you’re ready to take your sexual experiences to a new level, then read on for a very informative article on how to fist a woman.

Note: You are going to need a lot of lube if you try this

Our world is filled with taboos and societally-defined no-no’s and this article is about one of them.

I won’t get too deeply philosphical about it, since I think we can all agree that the practice of fisting is perceived as horrifying at worst, and shocking at best. One thing’s for sure though, and that is that the misconceptions and ignorance that shroud this fringe fetish are way overdue for being dispelled.

In this article which will speak primarliy to men (guys, pay attention), I’ll do my best to educate, enlighten, and guide you into the wonderful world of fisting. For the ladies reading this… print it out if you want to give it a go and have your man read it. Any questions you may have for Cecilia or I on this, please post them and we’ll answer them as quickly as we can.

Fist things fist: this is not for everybody, so if your lady is the type that doesn’t own sex toys larger than your penis or never fantasizes about “more aggressive” penetration, you may be barking up the wrong tree. Lesbians have been fisting for ages, but of course women’s fists are smaller so a man fisting a woman is a different experience.

In any case, a surprisingly large number of women enjoy it immensely, Cecilia being one of them. She’s the first woman who asked me to fist her, and I found it as mentally stimulating to me as it was physically for her. For us it’s not an everyday thing, but more of a treat when she’s in the mood for it. I can usually judge when’s an appropriate time to, with an impish grin, suggest it during or before sex.

The thing to keep in mind here is LUBRICATION. Find a good lube. We recommend ID-Glide water based lubricant, but whatever you regularly use should do the trick… just be sure to use a lot of it. Better to have more and not need it, we say, than to be under-lubricated. Once you’ve got your lady sliding around like a snail on amphetamines it’s time to have HER decide which position will be most comfortable for her. Keep in mind that variety is the spice of life, and different positions offer some radically different sensations (she tells me). Try whatever’s comfortable.

Okay guys, here’s your technique: get both of your hands lubed up and begin with just fingers. Increase from one, to two, three, and eventually four. When you’ve got four fingers comfortable inside (keeping the motion going… remember this is masturbating her and she should be writhing like an up-ended junebug at this point), plant your thumb on her clit and give it a good rub while you arch your fingers upwards into her mound (belly-side) as though you’re gripping her pubic bone like a six-pack. She will appreciate this.

Next, bring your other hand into play, sliding a finger or two at a time and then withdrawing, such that you’re stretching her pussy a bit more each time. Once she’s gaping (and enjoying it) wide, it’s time to cross the threshhold between fingering and fisting.

Enter the thumb.

Fisting, at least at first, is NOT done with a “typically” closed fist. You’re not punching her uterus. You’ll want your thumb extended and meeting your fingertips as though you’re making a shadow puppet of a chicken. Rotate gently. Have HER guide you all the way, because you MUST keep in mind that for a novice woman, the first time doing this might be accompanied by a wee bit of pain for her during the transition between “fist is out” and “ahhhh, fist is in.” Once your fist is inside her, be cognizant and careful of what you feel in there… keep your SHORT (and clean) fingernails away from any surface to avoid scratching her.

Some techniques, once you’re “in there:” slight rotation (the corkscrew effect); gentle upward or downward thrusting; the “monkey with a fistful of nuts who can’t get his hand out of the hole” technique (gently thrusting against the exit, so-to-speak); and the deeeep penetration (bumping her cervix… yup, it’s in there).

One thing NOT to forget here is to rub her clit… which will be very, very ready to enjoy a healthy, earth-shattering orgasm. She may want to masturbate her clit herself… if she does, just watch, enjoy, and be prepared to slowly remove your fist after she’s cum. It’s likely she’ll want it out after her eyes roll back into their sockets. I have given Cecilia some of her most powerful climaxes through fisting. Ask her, she’ll tell you.

Experiment with positions, becuase as I mentioned there are an infinite number of sensations a woman can receive from being fisted depending on her body’s orientation. Doggy style’s kind of nice. If you and your partner enjoy this, and can manage to pretzel yourselves the right way, try penetrating her anally while you fist her… it’s like having a three-way without the third wheel, and nobody gets left out.

As with any other “more adventurous” or “advanced” sexual techniques, fisting can become an exciting, satisfying (both mentally and physically) and passionate twist (or rotation) to spice up your sex lives together.

Let us know how it goes, and by all means if you have questions or comments for EITHER of us, post them below and we’ll reply promptly.

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